Honestly, I spent like twenty minutes yesterday trying to figure out which guy was which in this one profile I came across. It was literally all group shots. Like, six dudes in every single photo, all wearing similar hats. Are we dating the whole squad? Probably not. It’s such a common mistake but I see it all the time and it’s just confusing tbh. I get that you want to show you’re social and have friends, but save the "hanging with the boys" pic for the third or fourth slot.
If you want to actually get matches that lead somewhere, just use that one solo shot from your last vacation. You know the one—where you’re actually smiling and the lighting is decent because you were outside at a beach or some cool city square. People want to see you, not your three best friends from college or your tall cousin who makes everyone else look tiny lol. Plus, a travel photo is a built-in conversation starter. I’m way more likely to swipe right on someone who looks like they actually enjoy their life and isn't hiding behind a crowd. It feels more personal, you know? Like I'm actually getting a glimpse of your real vibe without having to guess.
Once you actually get that match and move past the "how's your week" small talk, you're eventually gonna need an actual plan to meet up. I was scrolling through some date ideas near me earlier because I always totally blank when someone asks where I want to go. It’s way better to have a few cool spots or activities in mind than to just say "idk, drinks?" for the hundredth time in a row. Having a couple of local spots or even a weird museum idea ready to go makes you look like you actually put in some effort, which is a huge green flag imo.
Tbh, being straightforward with your photos just saves everyone so much time and awkwardness. It shows you’re confident enough to stand on your own. And if you’re worried about looking "lonely" in a solo pic, don't be. It’s a dating app, we know you have friends! Just let us see your face clearly so we can actually get to the part where we meet up. Keep it simple, keep it positive, and please... no more blurry photos from five years ago. We want to see who you are right now. Good luck out there, it's a bit of a jungle but it's fun when you finally connect with someone cool.